Why I’m OK With Being Average

Why I’m OK With Being Average

The phrase ‘girl boss’ has been around for a few years now, especially across social media where it’s often accompanied by an inspirational quote or two.

Whilst I’m all for celebrating success and appreciate that the notion of being a general ‘boss bitch’ or superstar, kick-ass achiever is inspiring to some people, the negative association with not wanting to reach for those metaphorical stars seems to imply that you must be lazy or unambitious.

Personally, I’m not a naturally competitive or aggressive person and have never strived to be particularly outstanding in any area of my life. Right now, I’m advancing in my chosen career but equally, I have no desire to chase after the MD title or build my own empire. My blog is also pretty average and that isn’t something that I aspire to change either (my photography skills are questionable at best and am still astounded that a small number of people choose to read my lacklustre ramblings).

I don’t run marathons – heck, I can barely manage 3k on the treadmill without feeling like I may throw up – and I’ll never be the kind of girl who gets excited at seeing my name in first place on any scoreboard. I live in a modest yet cosy home and don’t yearn for a celebrity lifestyle.

Our wedding day didn’t involve thousands of pounds worth of decadent extras, I’m just as happy with caravan getaways as I am flying to exotic locations and my culinary skills are passable, as opposed to being worthy of a Michelin star.

Don’t get me wrong, I have plenty of undisclosed goals and dreams. My internal little ‘bucket list’ consists of various ambitious projects, however, I don’t harbour a desperate need for validation nor approval from anybody else to achieve these things. I am in awe of my unremarkable life almost every day, including the wonderful friends and family members around me, a marvellous marriage and a job that gives me a substantial sense of achievement.

My own idea of success is merely different to those who subscribe to the ‘girl boss/be the best’ culture; not better or worse, just different. I will always clap when my peers are winning and am happy to let others shine in the spotlight if it helps them feel good. As for me, I know I’ll never be a prize-winning novelist or vivacious perfectionist but I can comfortably live with that.

My life, my own story is far from exceptional and I can honestly say that I’m content being the centre of my mediocre universe; for the first time in my life, I am profoundly happy in my own skin. So, whatever success may mean to you, let’s toast both the victories, the mundane and the beautiful simplicity of ordinary together whilst excelling in our own unique ways.


Lisa Valentine That British Betty Blog



  1. 22nd February 2018 / 1:21 pm

    This is exactly what I needed to read. A few close friends are doing really exciting things right now. As a friend, I am so delighted for them but that nagging voice in my head has been a little harder to ignore later, mainly asking, ‘but what exciting things do I have going on!?’ I think ambition and goals are a great thing, as long as they are centred around self-improvement – not to impress others. This makes me feel a little better about where I’m currently at, thanks 🙂 x

  2. Catherine Irwin
    18th February 2018 / 8:18 pm

    This is such a refreshingly honest post! I just loved it.
    It’s not often I read words which are so freeing and is a reminder to me to stop striving for the illusive perfect.
    Thank you!
    Love Catherine xx
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  3. 6th February 2018 / 10:16 am

    100% agree. I do strive to be the best I can be at the things I want to succeed at (god, there’s a sentence) but realising that I don’t give a shit about “having it all” in the conventional sense was such a liberating moment!

    One of my favourite pieces on the topic: https://jezebel.com/some-ladies-just-dont-give-a-shit-about-having-it-all-1443095617

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  4. 4th February 2018 / 9:32 pm

    Whilst I don’t agree that you’re mediocre, I do agree with being happy with ones lot. Glad you’re in a happy place 😊
    Also don’t get me started on the ‘girl’ prefix….a rant for another time 😤!!

  5. 4th February 2018 / 9:32 pm

    Whilst I don’t agree that you’re mediocre, I do agree with being happy with ones lot. Glad you’re in a happy place 😊
    Also don’t get me started on the ‘girl’ prefix….a rant for another time 😤!!

    • 4th February 2018 / 9:40 pm

      Thanks Claire. It’s a nice feeling and I’m truly content right now 🙂 I actually went off on a massive rant about the ‘girl boss’ phrase whilst writing this but decided, like you, that it may need to be a post for another day! x

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